My Beautiful One

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Sometimes a poem and a cuddle are just what the doctor ordered to help your child find a sense of calm!

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During this uneasy time, our primary goal is: Keeping Kids Connected. Research shows us that social connection is the most powerful antidote to stress and anxiety. We are committed to helping bring positivity, fun, and friendship to kids around the globe.

In addition to offering regular live lessons in our virtual URSTRONG Classroom, we have curated a collection of friendship-themed activities for kids to do at home.

In order for a child to build positive relationships, they must learn to regulate their emotions. When we empower children with a toolkit of strategies, they start to feel a little more in control when big feelings cloud over.

According to the UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Centre, “mindful breathing builds resilience to stress, anxiety, and anger.” The simple strategy of focusing attention on the breath allows the body and mind to find a sense of calm.

This activity, designed for our littlest Friendship Ninjas, helps children calm down when they are feeling overwhelmed.

Key Outcome

Your child will practise mindful breathing to find a sense of calm.



  1. Get your child to snuggle in nice and close. Ask them how they are feeling. You might even point out some behaviors you’ve been noticing. Note: Sharing from the heart helps us to forge deep relationships with our children.  By listening to their ‘big feelings’ we are teaching them how to safely express themselves in relationships.
  2. Remind your child that they are safe with you. Say, “I have a cute poem I think you will like. It’s called, My Beautiful One. Because you’re MY beautiful one!”
  3. Read the poem and get your child to really practise their big “whoosh” breath!
  4. Ask, “How are you feeling now?” Listen as they describe their feelings. Be sure to share your feelings too!

Next Steps

Get creative about how you help your child breathe. Check out Coping Skills for Kids for lots of fun ways to help your child focus on their breath.