Inner-Critic DJ!

Lesson Plan Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Grab your headphones & turntables! Like a DJ of the mind, help your students quiet their Inner-Critic & turn up the volume on Inner-Compassion.

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If we want to be a good friend to others, we need to be a good friend to ourselves first!

Have you ever noticed you talking to yourself or thinking about yourself in a kind of Mean-on-Purpose or critical way? Sometimes people refer to this as an “Inner-Critic” – a little voice that tells us, You cant do that!” or, “Youre not good enough!

It is really important that we dont let our Inner-Critic have more power over us than our Inner-Compassion! Our Inner-Compassion is that calm, positive, encouraging voice that says, You can do it!and, You are great just the way you are!” Our Inner-Compassion helps us stay strong and confident.

When we feel that our Inner-Critic is starting to get too loud, like a DJ of the mind, it’s time to turn the volume down. 

Key Outcome

Your students will learn to recognize negative self-talk and switch it into more positive, helpful thoughts.


  • Paper
  • Writing utensils


  1. Read the Objective to your students.
  2. Ask them, “What does your Inner-Critic look like? Sound like? Feel Like? What kind of things does your Inner-Critic say to you? How does your Inner-Critic try to control you? What tricks does your Inner-Critic use?” Tell your students that we actually have the power to control these thoughts and challenge our own negative thinking.
  3. Ask your students, “What does your Inner-Compassion look like? Sound like? Feel Like? What kind of things does your Inner-Compassion say to you?”
  4. As a class, brainstorm ways that you could turn down the volume on that Inner-Critic and turn up the volume on their Inner-Compassion.
  5. Tell your students that they are no longer students, but they are now world famous DJs! Like a disc jockey, their job is to decide what tracks to spin and which ones to turn down or even turn off. (You could even show them a quick clip of how a DJ is constantly switching tracks and listening to different beats)
  6. Invite each student to come up with their own personalized plan for how they can quiet their Inner-Critic and turn up the volume on their Inner-Compassion. They can think of this plan like a Positivity Playlist. Get them to write it down.

Next Steps

Pretend you are a journalist interviewing a world famous DJ of the mind. Write a magazine article or blog post titled, ‘An Interview with My Inner-Critic and my Inner-Compassion’. Or, interview a friend to see how their Inner-DJ manages those positive and negative thoughts.