Remember the Friend-o-meter? It helps us assess the health of our friendships. Some friendships are in the healthy zone – they’re good for us and they feel awesome. And unfortunately, other friendships are the opposite. They feel bad, drag us down, and are sometimes painful. Those friendships are in the unhealthy zone of the Friend-o-meter.
It’s so important to understand that friendships and relationships are a choice. You’ve gotta get picky about how you spend your time and ensure you’re setting the bar high for yourself and making choices that are good for you. If you’ve got an unhealthy friendship on your hands, then we need to make a change…because you deserve better than that!
The plan: As much as you probably wish the friendship would work (maybe you were best friends before), it’s time to acknowledge this friendship isn’t working. If you have tried to put out your Friendship Fires® and done everything to make it better, but it’s still in the unhealthy zone…then it’s clear: It’s time to break-up with what you WANT the friendship to be and ACCEPT that this friendship isn’t good for you.
You’ve got to let go of the dream…for now. (Don’t worry, you don’t have to cut this friend out of your life entirely or forever. You simply need to create some space between the two of you. Less time with someone is a magical thing!)
Side note: You may get the #BreakupBlues when you see your friend in the halls laughing away with other friends. Be ready for it and have a plan!