So, this activity is called ‘Boundary Building’ and you must be wondering what in the world that means?! Well, a boundary is kind of like a fence. Some boundaries are real objects like fences or walls and other boundaries are imaginary like an invisible force field that protects us. The one thing that all boundaries have in common is that they are designed specifically to keep the good stuff in and the bad stuff out. They are there to keep us safe!
We all need to have personal boundaries in our friendships and relationships to stay safe as well. Our personal boundaries allow us to let the good stuff in and keep the harmful stuff out. We have to make sure that our personal boundaries and force fields are strong in our friendships. If they aren’t strong, some of the not-so-good, hurtful things can break through our boundaries and harm us.
Some people naturally have strong boundaries and force fields to begin with, while some people have to work on building stronger boundaries every day to keep safe and well in their friendships. The stronger our boundaries and force fields are, the more resilient we become! This allows us to bounce back way quicker after Friendship Fires® and Mean-on-Purpose moments.
The good news is that keeping our boundaries and force fields strong gets a whole lot easier with practice! I’m curious to know, how strong is your force field or personal boundary?