Be Your Own BFF!

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

No half-heart necklaces here! There is only one BFF (Best Friend Forever) and that’s yo’self! #Besties4Life

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At this point in your life, you’ve probably realized that there’s only one person in this whole world that you can control…and that’s YOU! You are stuck with yourself for your whole life. You have to listen to your own thoughts, watch your body change and grow, and make decision after decision. There’s no escaping YOU!  

This is why, starting today, you are going to be an AMAZING friend to YOU. There is no other person in this world who will be with you day-in-and-day-out, moment-by-moment. You are all of you’ve got, FOREVER.

On that note, I would like to introduce you to your new BFF… YOU!

This activity is designed to help your child build self-compassion and treat themselves like a Best Friend! As Dr Kristen Neff says, “With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.”

Key Outcome

Your child will learn to treat themselves with compassion and kindness by focusing on their positive qualities.



  1. In the box on the Be Your Own BFF Activity Sheet, write down all the things that make you who you are. Complete this sentence, “I AM…” and be sure to focus on your strengths. Create a word splash in the box of amazing qualities that you have. Be sure to use LOTS of color, bubble letters, block letters…get creative with your fonts and have fun with it!
  2. Cut it out, pop it into a frame, and put it somewhere special in your bedroom. Think of it like looking into a mirror. This is your Best Friend Forever!


Next Steps

Parents, share ways that you treat yourself like a friend! What happens when you don’t treat yourself well?