Where am I in this Picture?

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

If your child is feeling BIG emotions, let’s activate their imagination to help them feel better.  

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Did you know that it’s normal to have good days and bad days? It’s impossible to feel HAPPY all the time.

Our feelings are like waves – they roll in and roll out. They come and go and can sometimes be affected by the people and things around us in the moment. Sometimes when we are feeling sad or mad, it is really hard to remember that our yucky feeling will pass. It can feel a little the same when we find ourselves in the middle of a Friendship Fire® too. Having conflict with our friends can feel like the worst, most uncomfortable thing in the world!

Our imagination is a really powerful tool and, if we use it well, it can really help us when we find ourselves feeling angry or frustrated or sad or stuck feeling in the dumps.

Key Outcome

Your child will learn to use their imagination to help them think positively to overcome negative feelings.



  1. Take a look at the image on the Where am I in This Picture Activity Sheet.
  2. Parents, role-model for your child by sharing which character best shows how you are feeling and why.
  3. Ask your child, “Where are you in this picture? Which character best shows how you’re feeling?” When your child has decided which character they are, ask them to explain why. Try to get them to describe what it is that’s making them feel that way. Prompt them if necessary by asking specific questions to really help them put a voice to how they are feeling.
  4. Ask your child, “Where would you like to be in the picture? How would you like to feel?”
  5. Now, come up with a plan together for ways you could help your child achieve that feeling. What could they do? Help them see that there are actions they can take to help them feel better. Give them a challenge for right now: “What’s one thing you could do right now to get you closer to that feeling you want?”


Next Steps

When you see your friend is stuck feeling yucky, what could you do to cheer them up? Share your ideas with your parent.