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At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Here are few fun, easy ways that kids can feel connected to their friends while socially-distancing!

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During this uneasy time, our primary goal is: Keeping Kids Connected. Research shows us that social connection is the most powerful antidote to stress and anxiety. We are committed to helping bring positivity, fun, and friendship to kids around the globe.

In addition to offering regular live lessons in our virtual URSTRONG Classroom, we have curated a collection of friendship-themed activities for kids to do at home.


One thing is for sure…nothing matters more to kids than their friends and there are lots of creative ways kids can feel together while apart. Here are few fun, easy ways that kids can feel connected to their friends:

  1. Write a letter to a friend
  2. Draw or paint a picture of your fave memory with your friends
  3. Have a pyjama party with a friend on FaceTime
  4. Write a story using your friends as the main characters
  5. Make a TikTok video about friendship
  6. Design a poster with a message for your friend –get your parents to drive by your friend’s house, honking, and holding the sign
  7. Set up a Netflix Party and watch a movie together
  8. Have a Lip-Sync Battle with your friends – film yourself lip-syncing and then send it to your friends
  9. Listen to songs about friendship, like the Friendology playlist on Spotify
  10. Invent a game that you can play with your friend online
  11. Start a Book Club – read the same book and then chat about it afterwards
  12. Write a poem about friendship – maybe an acrostic poem, rhyming poem, or limerick
  13. Use Messenger, Zoom, or Google Hangouts to invite a group of friends to share funny jokes + memes
  14. Invite a friend to pop by your house for a Together-Apart Game like a water fight or snowball fight
  15. Join our virtual URSTRONG Classroom with live lessons on friendship!

Sometimes keeping things simple is the best way to go. Maybe you print this list out and tell your child to choose one? Or, pick one you know your child would be excited about and send them on their merry way. Do they need some motivation? Turn it into a challenge or a competition. Choose what works for you and your family and watch your child bring it to life!