The Friendship Sandwich

Lesson Plan Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Caught in the middle of friends? Yep, that’s a Friendship Sandwich – & it’s STICKY! Keep your students outta there!

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Have you had a friend say something unkind about one of your friends? It’s uncomfortable, right!?

Every now and then we can find ourselves stuck in the middle of two friends… what we call, a Friendship Sandwich! It’s sticky and messy when you’re caught in the middle and sometimes you don’t know what to do. Sometimes you want no part of it and wish you weren’t even involved. 

How can we maintain a healthy friendship with both of our friends and stay out of those icky Friendship Sandwiches? Well, there are some simple steps that will help. 

Key Outcome

Your students will learn how to stay out of the middle of a conflict between friends.


  • Pens
  • Paper
  • Cardboard
  • Scissors
  • Glue
  • Art & craft materials


  1. With your students, review Friendology 101 Session 7 – Hot Topics, particularly the scenario relating to the ‘Friendship Sandwich’. Focus on the two steps that help us get out of these sticky situations.
  2. Ask your students, “What do you do if you find yourself caught in a Friendship Sandwich?” Discuss why it’s so important to not get caught in the middle of two friends.
  3. Instruct your students to create a visual representation (or image) of a Friendship Sandwich. They could do this using paper, cardboard, felt, craft materials or even real food if you’re feeling brave!

Encourage your students to get creative about showing what Friendship Sandwiches are, and, most importantly, how to stay out of them!


Next Steps

Invite another class to join you for a “picnic” in your classroom! Get the students to share their Friendship Sandwiches and teach the other students how to stay out of those sticky, messy situations between friends.