The BIG Friendship Reveal

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Kids love a good magic trick! They’ll love surprising their friends with this invisible art project.

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During this uneasy time, our primary goal is: Keeping Kids Connected. Research shows us that social connection is the most powerful antidote to stress and anxiety. We are committed to helping bring positivity, fun, and friendship to kids around the globe.

In addition to offering regular live lessons in our virtual URSTRONG Classroom, we have curated a collection of friendship-themed activities for kids to do at home.

Albert Einstein once said, “Creativity is contagious, pass it on.” And, Brene Brown puts it beautifully by saying that, “Creativity is the way I share my soul with the world”.

With this wealth of wisdom, we can encourage our children to channel creativity + connectivity with their friends. We know that children love to show their appreciation of friends and family by giving a small token or gift – especially when a little bit of magic is involved!

Key Outcome

Your child will learn that creativity can be used to foster connection and deepen relationships.


  • A white crayon or white tall candle (wax)
  • Card or thick paper
  • Watercolour paints
  • A paintbrush


  1. Using your candle or crayon, your child can draw a design or write a special message to their friend. Remind them to press hard.
  2. If your child wants to send their friend a secret message, have them roll it up, tie with some string, and mail to their friend. Ensure they provide some instructions for their friend to paint over it for the big reveal!
  3. Alternatively, your child can paint over their message and capture a time lapse or slo-mo video of the big reveal. They can then email the video to their friend.

Note: When revealing the painting, bright colours works best and painting across the page (landscape) gives a great result.

Next Steps

Encourage your child to make a booklet by stapling pages together and then drawing or writing their story of friendship. Consider combining this activity with another one from our Together-Apart list!