At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.
Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.
Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.
Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.
Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.
Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…
4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.
No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
Every friendship is different.
Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
Friendships change…and that’s okay.
Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.
Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!
Holy Batman! Your students are going to save the day after this fun, confidence-boosting activity!
Every single one of us has unique abilities and strengths. We are all amazingly different and that is why “Every friendship is different” too (Friendship Fact #2)!
The fact that we are all different is what makes life so interesting. Imagine how boring it would be if we were all the same! (Snore!) There are things about every one of us that are special and ‘super’.
It’s fun (and important) to celebrate our differences and see ourselves and each other as superheroes with superhero strengths.
Your students will focus on their strengths to reflect positively on their personal qualities and attributes, increasing their confidence and self-belief.
Paper, pencils and pens
Craft materials, fabric, glue, glitter, newspaper/magazines, tape, etc.
A creative space where students can work to create their ‘Superhero Capes’
Ask your students to list what they believe are their greatest strengths. You may like to refer back to the ‘You Rock’ exercise in Session 8 of Friendology 101 to help them reflect positively on their strengths and personal qualities.
Encourage your students to imagine that they are a superhero with superhero powers and qualities. Ask them, “If you were a superhero, what super powers would you have and what kind of super friend would you be?”
Explain to students that they are going to use art and craft materials to create their very own superhero cape that reflects all their super qualities, strengths and super friend powers. (Or, if you don’t have time to mess up your classroom, get your students to simply draw a picture of what their capes would look like!)
Host a ‘Superhero – Super Friend Fashion Parade’ and invite students to dress in their superhero capes. Get them to write a fashion parade script that introduces each superhero and describes their qualities and strengths. Film the fashion parade or perform it at an assembly.
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