Normal Shmormal! (Snoozefest)

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Kids want to “fit in”, feel they belong, and know that their experiences with friendship, their struggles, their drama…is (you guessed it!) NORMAL!

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Normal. It seems so boring, but it’s the ultimate goal of so many things. When your mother was pregnant with you, she definitely hoped that all the test results would come back Normal. During Parent-Teacher Interviews, parents just want to know that their child’s behavior is Normal. When kids are going through the P-word (cover your eyes – “puberty”), they just want to know that the changes they’re seeing and feeling are Normal.

Well, it’s the same for friendship.


Key Outcome

Your child will learn that there are a lot of common experiences in friendship, plus recognize you have been through similar experiences too.




Parents, it’s time to pop your favorite little person some popcorn and share your experiences being a young kid and dealing with friends.  If you’d like, print out the Story Time template to guide your conversation. Feel free to elaborate and add in anything else you think of.

Be sure to keep your child is interested (you don’t want them to fall asleep!), so add in crazy voices, actions, sound effects… You get the picture! And, be sure to speak to situations that might connect to what they’re experiencing.


Next Steps

There’s a quote that says, “People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” Sharing your stories is a great way to get out your feelings. Discuss what that quote means to you and how you’ve experienced that in your life too!