Message in a Bottle

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Forget text, Snapchat, or TikTok… We’re going old school on this one with a message in a bottle!

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During this uneasy time, our primary goal is: Keeping Kids Connected. Research shows us that social connection is the most powerful antidote to stress and anxiety. We are committed to helping bring positivity, fun, and friendship to kids around the globe.

In addition to offering regular live lessons in our virtual URSTRONG Classroom, we have curated a collection of friendship-themed activities for kids to do at home.

Accessibility to our online world is handy right now!  However, taking some time to slow the pace down for our kids is vital.  We can use this time to empower our kids to deeply reflect on what makes a friend precious and then share these reflections with their bestie.

This activity is designed to help kids keep the lines of communication open in a creative and fun way to foster strong foundations in their friendships.

Fun Fact: The earliest message in a bottle is thought to have been sent by a Greek philosopher in 310 BC!

Key Outcome

Your child will reflect on the qualities of a healthy friendship by writing mini-messages to their special friends.



  1. To help get started, show your child the YouTube video on what makes a good friend.
  2. Say to your child, “Do you have some good friends? Tell me about them!” Give them a chance to reminisce and reflect on the special friendships in their lives.
  3. Explain that they’re going to make a Message in a Bottle for a friend. Show them the pictures above and describe what a Message in a Bottle is all about.
  4. On a blank peice of paper, encourage your child to write their friend’s name. Get them to list some reasons their friend is so awesome!
  5. Tell them to highlight the top five with a coloured marker. Recommend that your child writes these sentiments individually on strips of different coloured paper.
  6. Roll up the messages and pop them in the bottle!
  7. Say, “What else could you put in the jar to make it special?” Maybe they could add some sand, glitter, confetti, or a ribbon around the top.

Next Steps

If their friend lives close by, encourage them to pop it in their letterbox or mail it to their friend. Alternatively, suggest they send a video message to their friend showing them what they made! Note: Remind your child not to throw it in the sea.