Lights, Camera, Action!

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Step aside John Cena & Emma Watson… Your child has just landed a starring role in this blockbuster movie!

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The thought of standing up for yourself probably instantly gives you butterflies. It’s a skill that needs to be practiced, because kids are not naturally good at it. Not only that, the idea totally freaks us out! But, it’s something we need to get better at and, as you’ve heard time and time again, practice makes perfect. So, let’s talk about standing up to a friend and putting out those Friendship Fires®.  It’s important to keep things simple, especially when doing something you’re uncomfortable with. So, here’s how you do it:

  1. Retell the situation.
  2. Explain how it made you feel.

That’s it! Those two things are the first step towards putting that Friendship Fire® out!

Another important thing to consider is timing. When is the best time to have this serious conversation? Timing is everything! You want to make sure that nobody else is around because you know exactly what will happen…people will listen in and whip it into juicy gossip! You also do not want to have this conversation if your friend is in a horrible mood or they’re super revved up on sugar. Make sure your friend is in a good mindspace to have a serious chat, otherwise you will just be wasting your time.

Key Outcome

Your child will get more comfortable managing conflict in their friendships by role-playing scenarios.



This activity involves acting and role-playing. Consider this your very first role as an actor. YOU landed the starring role in this movie and this could potentially be the beginning of a lifetime career in acting!

  1. Print out the Movie Script. Fill in the blanks, read the scenario, and follow the directions. Discuss this with your parent. Has something like this ever happened to you? Talk about the example and how your own experiences relate.
  2. Parents, lead the discussion questions listed on the Movie Script handout.
  3. Practice standing up for yourself using all sorts of examples. If you’re dealing with a Friendship Fire® right now, talk about it with your parent and practice putting out the Fire®. Write your own premise for a movie and start acting!

Next Steps

Have you ever had someone say, “Sorry!” but you didn’t feel they meant it? Parents, show your child what a genuine apology looks, sounds, and feels like and then get your child to practice!