Language of Friendship Session 3: What’s Normal in a Friendship

Video Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


Sometimes we don’t stop to think about what is normal in a friendship. We wonder, ‘Is this what it’s supposed to be like? Is this what everyone experiences or is it just ME’? I am going to teach you the 4 Friendship Facts and these 4 facts will set a foundation for you for life that will remind you what is actually normal in a friendship. These facts will apply to your friendships and relationships in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years… You’ll be amazed at how many times you’ll refer back to these Facts. Knowing what to expect will help you feel a little more at ease in your friendships!

Grown-ups, this session is going to set the stage for what’s normal in a friendship so the child you’re with can create some realistic expectations. This will even apply to your life too and I’m excited for you to also apply your learning to your own relationships too! Let’s get started.

Your Friend,

Once children start to understand what’s normal, what’s common in a friendship, they know what to expect. We help them create realistic expectations. This session teaches children the 4 Friendship Facts, helping them wrap their heads around what’s normal in a friendship, setting the foundation for all the friendships in their lives.

Key Outcome

Your child will learn what’s normal in a friendship through URSTRONG’s 4 Friendship Facts so they know what to expect in their friendships.

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