Language of Friendship Session 1: Connecting with the Real You

Video Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


Have you ever felt like you weren’t good enough? Or maybe you’re always comparing yourself to the kids around you and feel like you don’t come close to being as cool or as smart or as awesome? Well, you’re definitely not alone. I used to feel that way when I was your age. This session is about helping you to challenge those unhelpful thoughts. I’m going to help you to get to know yourself a little better and will show you how to focus on your strengths. It’s time to get real about who you really are and, you know what, when you’re real about it with your eyes on the positives you bring to this world, YOU will find that life starts to feel easy… friendships come more naturally, happiness comes easily, and the BEST version of you starts to shine.

For the grown-ups, enjoy this workshop and let’s help this special person connect with who they really are!

Your Friend,

This session is designed to help all children connect with their sense of self and is especially valuable for children who are struggling with their self-confidence. In order to create healthy friendships, we need children to first look inward and shine a light on their strengths. They will learn that character is what matters most and they have the power to be the best version of themselves.

Key Outcome

Your child will learn to tap into their strengths and focus on developing their character.

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