Have you heard about this thing called, ‘bullying’? Of course you have! We hear this word all the time and, can I be honest with you? I don’t like that word because it’s confusing and sometimes Friendship Fires are referred to as bullying…but they’re not…they’re just Friendship Fires. So, at URSTRONG, we talk about Mean-on-Purpose behavior. Have you ever had someone be mean-on-purpose to you and you didn’t know what to do? (And then you went home and thought about all the things you wished you’d said and done?) I’m going to teach you how to stand up to Mean-on-Purpose behavior like a ninja! Believe me, when you learn how to do this, you will notice that kids around you start to treat you with respect and kindness…because you teach people how to treat you!
Grown-ups, are you ready to help transform your special person into a Friendship Ninja? Bullying will become a thing of the past when kids learn how to stop Mean-on –Purpose behaviour in its tracks. And, there’s no better consequence for a child being Mean-on-Purpose than a child standing up to them!
This session helps kids recognize the difference between normal conflict (we call Friendship Fires®) and Mean-on-Purpose behavior. The word “bullying” is so often misused, confusing for kids, and leads them to label other children as “bullies.” Instead, our program focuses on addressing behavior that is intentionally mean (we call Mean-on-Purpose) using a Quick Comeback. This short statement, said in a strong voice (not aggressive!), lets the other person know their Mean-on-Purpose behavior is not okay. Children are then taught to walk away and report the situation to an adult.
Research shows that consistently providing a negative consequence to this kind of behavior reduces the likelihood that it will happen again and does not allow the child to get away with treating someone poorly. ALL kids want to be liked and want to get along with one another. When they stand up to Mean-on-Purpose behavior, they guide everyone towards kindness and create a safe, caring environment that makes kids accountable.