Friendship Ninja Game

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


Ever had someone call you a mean name or do something intentionally to hurt you? At URSTRONG, we call that “Mean-on-Purpose”.

When someone is Mean–on-Purpose to us, it’s hard to know what to say or do. Sometimes we’re so caught off guard that we don’t say anything at all. We freeze or run away. Our hearts start to race. Our face gets red and our hands start to shake. There are even times our ‘gut instinct’ might be to say or do something that would get us in trouble!

In those Mean-on-Purpose moments, we teach kids to say a Quick Comeback (a short statement that let’s the person know it’s not okay), then immediately walk away.  But, it can be hard to recall our Quick Comeback in the heat of the moment. It is really, super-dooper important that our Quick Comebacks are locked in and memorized…so, when someone calls us a “Dumb-Loser-Stupid Face”, we know EXACTLY what to say and do. And, we can say our Quick Comeback confidently, using a strong, sharp, ninja voice. #FriendshipNinja

This lesson is designed to give students an opportunity to practice using their Quick Comeback in a fun and non-threatening, game-based setting.

Key Outcome

Your students will demonstrate how to say a Quick Comeback in reacting to Mean-on-Purpose behaviour.

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