Friendship is like a Dance

Lesson Plan Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Who can “Floss” the fastest? Who’s got the best Fortnite dance moves? It’s time for a DANCE PARTY!

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At URSTRONG, we end our workshops and Friendology 101 Sessions with the statement: “Let’s Dance!” We love to end on a positive note and shake out those big feelings we’ve been working through!

In fact, friendships are kind of like a dance – we move in and out, closer and farther from all sorts of friends over our lifetime. As Friendship Fact #4 teaches us, “Friendships change…and that’s okay.” It’s important to help our students get comfortable with this ebb and flow in their relationships. 

Another way friendships are like a dance…they’re FUN! Dancing releases our feel-good hormones called endorphins, helping us feel good.

This lesson is designed to give students the opportunity to be creative and expressive with their friends, along with reminding them of Friendship Fact #4.

Key Outcome

Your students will learn Friendship Fact #4: Friendships change…and that’s okay.


  • Kid-friendly dance music and loud speakers
  • A big space to dance
  • Optional: Disco ball, glow-in-the-dark necklaces, strobe light, fairy lights, etc.


  1. Ask the students, “Who can remember what Friendship Fact #4 is?” Get them to give an example of how friendships change.
  2. Say to the students, “Did you know that friendships are kind of like a dance? When you’re dancing at a disco or dance party, you move in and out, closer and farther from people!” See if they can list other ways friendships are like a dance. (This is a good time to talk about similes and metaphors!)
  3. Surprise the students by saying, “All this talk about dancing…who wants to have a DANCE PARTY?”
  4. Turn up the music and let the kids let loose and dance their little hearts out!
  5. After the dance party, get the students to reflect on how they are feeling. Explain how friendships make us feel good, just like dancing does. Say, “Did you know that music can shift your mood and change your brain chemistry in under 20 seconds! How cool is that?” Describe how music and dancing help take care of our souls, just like healthy friendships.

Next Steps

Get the students to make their own “Feel Good Playlist” with all the songs that cheer them up and make them happy. Encourage them to listen to music and dance anytime they feel down in the dumps!