Friendship Fires Obstacle Course

Lesson Plan Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!

Up, down, left, right! Let’s get the kids’ brains and bodies moving by creating a fun, cool obstacle course.

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At URSTRONG, we call disagreements with friends Friendship Fires®. It’s important for students to understand that conflict is a normal part of a relationship. As Friendship Fact #1 teaches us, “No friendship (or relationship) is perfect.”

Friendship Fires® are like little obstacles in our friendships. Some obstacles are easy to overcome, while others require serious consideration and thought to make it through. In friendship, we encounter obstacles all the time!

This lesson is designed to get students thinking about the origins of Friendship Fires® along with the processes and skills required to put those Fires out and get friendships feeling good again.


Key Outcome

Your students will be able to identify how Friendship Fires® are like obstacles and recognize they can survive conflict.



  • Sports equipment
  • Chalk and string
  • Riddles, puzzles, or challenges


  1. Review Friendology 101 – Session 4 with your students. Ask them, “What is a Friendship Fire®? How do we put those Fires out?” Write their answers up on the whiteboard.
  2. Explain to the students that Friendship Fires® are like obstacles in our friendships. Some obstacles are very tricky to navigate and take more time, while others are easier.
  3. Using the sports equipment and materials provided, instruct the students to design a Friendship Fires® Obstacle Course. Put the students in small groups. Each group will create an obstacle that represents a Friendship Fire®.
  4. Once each group has finalized their obstacle, get the groups to explain the Friendship Fire® that their obstacle is representing.
  5. Using the string or chalk, identify the start and finish line. Turn on some music and allow the children to have some fun navigating through the entire course.

Next Steps

Like little architects, get the students to draw a blueprint of the Friendship Fires Obstacle Course. Have the students list 3 ways Friendship Fires are like the obstacles they had to navigate!