Friendship Fires® Fire Pit

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


Have you ever found yourself in a really tricky situation with a friend, when things seem to be going downhill badly and a you just don’t know what to do? Or, maybe you have had your feelings hurt by a friend or have had a fight or disagreement? These are the kind of things that we refer to as Friendship Fires®.

It is normal that, at some point in every friendship, we will have a Friendship Fire®. After all, “No friendship or relationship is perfect”…as you know from our beloved Friendship Fact #1!

However, being in the middle of Friendship Fires® can feel pretty bad and worrying. While it is normal to have disagreements and arguments with friends, it’s important to know you can survive them! When those Fires spark, we need to take steps to put them out – not make them bigger! 

We can get better at putting out Friendship Fires® when we practice the skills we use when Talking it Out’ – the most important phase on the Friend-o-cycle.

Key Outcome

Your child will learn how to put out their Friendship Fires® through an open, honest conversation to get their friendship feeling healthy again!

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