Bear with me a second while I let your parents in on a little secret. Parents, are you ready for this? Brace yourself. Here it comes… Your child probably doesn’t tell you everything! There, I said it. (That wasn’t so bad, right!?) The reality is kids do not often tell their parents if they’ve had a Friendship Fire® with a friend, or they’re dealing with an up-and-down friend, or they’re having trouble making friends.
So, why do kids keep this stuff on the down-low? Well, there are 4 main reasons:
- Your child is worried you’re going to freak out. You might call the other kids parents, you might call the school, you might say the wrong things, you might cry, you might say “I knew that kid wasn’t good for you!” Basically, you might say and do all the wrong things and just make matters worse.
- Your child is embarrassed. They want you to think they’re cool and popular and awesome. Your child wants to make you proud! (Now would be a good time to tell your child how proud you are and why!)
- Your child knows it sounds silly. Kids are totally aware that sometimes the things they’re upset or annoyed about aren’t a big deal, but they can’t shake it. When they think about telling an adult, they think parents + teachers won’t get it!
- Your child is so tuned in to you. They know if you’re stressed out or have a lot on your plate right now and they don’t want to add to your pile by unloading their friendship drama on you. They also know it will upset you – so they protect you from that.
Kids don’t tell their parents everything…nor should they! We all crave a little privacy from time to time. Wouldn’t it be great, however, if your child could view you as a helpful resource and see you as someone they could talk to!? Well, let’s get on that!