Food Friend-o-meter

Activity Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


Okay, so we know that the Friend-o-meter is a tool we can use to help us check the health of our friendships! But, do you know what percentage of our friendships should be in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter to maximize our happiness and wellbeing?

I’ll let you in on a little trick to help you remember… It’s kinda like food! Nutritionists tell us that if roughly 80% of the things we eat are considered healthy, then our bodies can cope with about 20% of foods that are not-so-healthy (& we all like having a treat from time to time!). Nutritionists call this The 80:20 Rule. Keeping things in balance and eating mostly healthy things keeps our bodies happy, healthy and working well.

Well, guess what? Friendships are kinda the same! If 80% of our friendships are in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter, then we can cope with 20% of our friendships being in the not-so-healthy zone!

When we are spending time in healthy friendships, we feel energised and happy. Healthy friendships lift us up and make us feel good! Unhealthy friendships are the opposite; like unhealthy food, they drag us down and don’t feel good.

When you’re thinking about your friendships, it is really important that you know where they sit on the Friend-o-meter. This way you can tell how healthy your friendships and relationships are and make decisions and choices that support your wellbeing. If you stick to the 80:20 rule in your friendships, making sure that your core friendships are in the healthy zone, you’ll have a better chance of keeping things in balance.

To help us remember this important connection between the Friend-o-meter and food, it’s time to get in the kitchen!

Key Outcome

Your child will learn the importance of spending the most time in healthy, feel-good friendships!


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