F101 Session 1: How to Get Real

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Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


This session focuses on self-awareness, teaching children to ‘get real’ about who they are. In order to create healthy friendships, we need students to first look inward and shine a light on their strengths. Students will learn that character is what matters most and they have the power to be the best version of themselves.

You’ll need to establish some guidelines with the students because this is the first session to set the tone for the program. It is most important that your students feel comfortable and respected. Make the girls and boys feel like this is a really special club. If possible, allow them to wear comfy clothes, eat snacks while you’re presenting, sit where they want, etc. Show them you trust them. Create an environment that feels less like another class and more like a safe place to hang out. Shift your role to be similar to that of a Counselor or Life Coach, so try to quiet your “Teacher voice” and talk to the kids like a friend giving advice…a Friendship Coach!

Key Outcome

  • Students will apply the Friendology 101 Guidelines: Be kind to yourself and others, be open to learning and growing, be honest, be brave, and have fun.
  • Students will dispel myths around gender stereotypes, thinking critically about the messages that are imposed on them because of their gender and challenge those limitations and expectations to focus on who they really are.
  • Students will identify the things they can and cannot control about themselves. They will learn to embrace qualities they cannot change and feel good about who they are. They will also learn that although they can’t control the shape of their nose or color of their eyes, for instance, they can control their behavior and choose to be happy.
  • Through the Friendology Project (writing in a gratitude journal), students will focus on seeing life through a positive lens and the importance of expressing gratitude and appreciation.
  • Through the Friendology Project (Looking into Your Sole), students will examine the main aspects of who they are and describe themselves in a variety of ways.

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