F101 Session 6: How to Handle Tricky Situations

Video Glossary

Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


This session covers common scenarios and ‘hot topics’ that kids face in their friendships. These scenarios have come from the tens of thousands of kids that we’ve worked with and represent questions that have been asked the most.

Some of the tricky topics include:

  • Dealing with someone who asks to be their partner every time
  • The complicated world of birthday party invitations
  • Being caught in the middle between friends
  • “Stealing” friends
  • Digital etiquette and cyber safety, teaching children tips for keeping their friendships healthy online

Key Outcome

  • Students will be able to say, “No!” to their friends in a kind way by saying, “No, because…” to ensure they are explaining themselves.
  • Students will be able to describe the best way to handle birthday party invitations to minimize hurt feelings.
  • Students will be able to explain how to avoid being caught in the middle of two friends who aren’t getting along.
  • Students will be able to analyze the concept of ‘stealing friends’ and identify the Friendship Fires® that ignite when this happens.
  • Students will be able to list ways to keep friendships healthy online including the importance of always dealing with Friendship Fires® face-to-face.
  • Through the Friendology Project (spreading kindness online), students will put to practice the power of kindness online and demonstrate the positive impact it has on others.

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