This session helps students recognize the difference between normal conflict (we call Friendship Fires®) and Mean-on-Purpose behavior. The word “bullying” is so often misused, confusing for kids, and leads them to label other children as “bullies.” Instead, our program focuses on addressing behavior that is intentionally mean (we call Mean-on-Purpose) using a Quick Comeback. This short statement, said in a strong voice (not aggressive!), lets the other person know their Mean-on-Purpose behavior is not okay. Students are then taught to walk away and report the situation to an adult. Like. A. Ninja.
Research shows that consistently providing a negative consequence to this kind of behavior reduces the likelihood that it will happen again and does not allow the child to get away with treating someone poorly. Tweenaged children want to be liked and want to get along with one another. When they stand up to Mean-on-Purpose behavior, they guide everyone towards kindness and create a safe, caring environment that holds kids accountable.