F101 Jr Session 1: How to Make Friends

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Glossary of Terms

At URSTRONG, we believe it’s important to use kids’ language for kids’ problems. That’s why we have our very own, unique language of friendship. Here are some important terms that children, parents, and teachers learn in our program.

Friendship Fire®: Any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings.

Mean-on-Purpose: When someone is intentionally unkind to someone else.

Quick Comeback: A very short word or phrase that is used when someone is Mean-on-Purpose. Quick Comebacks are designed to let the other person know that you heard/saw what they did and you’re not okay with it.

Friend-o-meter: A visual tool that assesses the health of friendships, ranging from the healthy zone to the unhealthy zone.

Friend-o-cycle: The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a Friendship Fire. The phases of the Friend-o-cycle are: Healthy Friendship – Fire – Confront the issue – Talk-it-Out – Forgive & Forget – Closer & Stronger – Healthy Friendship…

4 Friendship Facts: A set of four facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.

  1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect.
  2. Every friendship is different.
  3. Trust & Respect are the two most important qualities of a friendship.
  4. Friendships change…and that’s okay.

Red Shirt Girl and Striped Shirt Boy: Two characters that remind us about the importance of body language.

Friendship Ninja: A Friendship Ninja is someone who surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-meter. A Friendship Ninja is kind and friendly to everyone. A Friendship Ninja understands the 4 Friendship Facts and puts out their Friendship Fires when they ignite. A Friendship Ninja stands up for themselves and their friends. A Friendship Ninja makes new friends and understands that friendships change…and that’s okay. Above all else, a Friendship Ninja is someone you want to be friends with because they’re true to who they are!


You’ll need to establish some guidelines with the students because this is the first session to set the tone for the program.  It is most important that your students feel comfortable and respected. Make the girls and boys feel like this is a really special club.  If possible, allow them to wear comfy clothes, eat snacks while you’re presenting, sit where they want, etc. Show them you trust them. Create an environment that feels less like another class and more like a safe place to hang out. Shift your role to be similar to that of a Counselor or Life Coach, so try to quiet your “Teacher voice” and talk to the kids like a friend giving advice…a Friendship Coach!

This session introduces children to the concept that we are all unique and the importance of honoring our differences. Through the use of their stuffies (also known as “soft toys” or teddy bears), students learn how to spark a new friendship, starting with introducing themselves. They then practice the art of conversation, an important life skill that is often overlooked and not explicitly taught. Once girls and boys know how to hold a conversation, they learn how to take it to the next level by finding something in common with someone to plant the seed for a new friendship to grow.

Key Outcome

  • Students will apply the Friendology 101 Guidelines: Be kind to yourself and others, be open to learning and growing, be honest, be brave, and have fun.
  • Students will be able to identify ways that they are different and unique from their peers.
  • Students will be able to introduce themselves.
  • Students will be able to have a conversation through a game of catch.
  • Students will recognize that a new friendship starts by finding one thing in common.
  • Through the Friendology Project (having lunch with a new friend), students will apply the skills they learned. Students will practice introducing themselves, having a conversation, and sparking a new friendship.

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